Perhaps you were in a long-term relationship that ended in a battle or a short-term one that more casually and less dramatically split apart, but whatever your dating history you aren’t too pleased with the idea of marching out into the dating scene. Before heading back into it, check out some books that can point you in the right direction for that next time you start to fall in love.
He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys by Liz Tuccillo
Maybe you’ve seen the movie, but now you should sit down to browse the pages of the book. Perhaps you’ve noticed that you tend to put more effort into relationships or that you seem to be the more committed one. Instead of falling into another trap where you feel like more of a slave than a partner, you can work to notice when he or she may not really be into you from the start.
A General Theory of Love by Thomas Lewis
Chances are that when you think of love, you envision some mystical connection floating through the air. While the nature of love can certainly have an element of magic to it, you should also consider the science of love. By looking at how and why love actually functions in the real world, you can better understand the attractions that you feel to some people.
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman
Falling in love is generally an exhilarating experience. However, as you move more and more into the routine, you can start to feel as though you’re falling out of love. Maybe you are, but you also might be moving into a new stage of love. Chapman’s book will discuss important ways that you can use to bring the feelings of romance with you along the journey toward long-term happiness with your partner.
The Secret by Rhonda Byrne
While this book is not solely focused on relationships, it does help guide you toward greater success in your life. When you learn a strategy of techniques to generate positive outcomes and to attract the things that you want the most, you have the opportunity to make your next relationship your most fulfilling one.
Shopgirl by Steve Martin
Although the main goal of this book is not to offer relationship advice, it examines a connection that is plagued with an assortment of problems. If you start to notice your own traits coming through in the main character, then you may have an idea as to why your relationships have not worked out so well in the past.
Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love by Dorothy Tennov
If you want to combine the ideas about the science of love along with the reasons why these romantic feelings tend to change after while, then you should check out Tennov’s work. Sometimes, just knowing that you aren’t alone in your perceptions about the relationship can provide you with the tenacity to keep working at it.
Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix
When you enter back into the dating scene, you might feel exhausted from trying to form relationships with people with whom you are not compatible. You may also feel exhausted from never getting what you fully want out of relationships. Instead of continuing to stay in this rut, you can take some tips from Hendrix on how to pursue the love that you both want and deserve.
As you are looking for books to read, you should also take your own goals and issues from past relationships into account. The best books to read will vary from person to person, depending upon what you seek. However, these books and similar ones can get you started on the road to a happier relationship the next time you form a union with a partner. And, yes, there will be a next time.